Choosing Happy When Life Feels Intolerable

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If you are breezing through each day and flowing with love, abundance and

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joy, while being aware of the reality of the massive transformation we're in, I

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want to congratulate you and thank you for holding the light for the rest of.

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Now a number of people I listened to, you know, every other day, and respect

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are saying that we're in a period of initiation and like any initiation,

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it challenges us to step up, to break through what we haven't managed to break

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through before, to go through a massive transformation personally and planning.

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Well, I can say honestly that the past few weeks have felt like that.

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For me, I've been challenged.

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Like I've never been challenged before.

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Hence the gaps in me recording the podcast episodes.

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And I do apologize for that.

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We're also entering potentially an intolerable phase of that

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initiation for the whole of the plan.

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How do we choose love, joy, happiness, and forgiveness.

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When we're moving through such unprecedented times from darkness

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to light, how do we stay strong and resilient when we're being tested

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so that we break through to a wisdom and power for each of us to own that

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we could never have anticipated?

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What will you choose over the next.

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Okay, where can you find support and resources?

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That's what I explore in this episode, as well as letting you know how I

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am choosing to really step up and support you through this next phase.

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If you find the episode of value, please do like subscribe and share.

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It helps me stay consistent and it helps the podcast get noticed.

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All the resources and links that I mentioned in this episode,

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you can find in the show notes.

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And I just want to thank you for taking the time out to listen.

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It really means a lot to me.

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So let's dive in to this week's episode of the choosing happy podcast.

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Hello and welcome to the choosing happy podcast.

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I'm Heather.

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Masters and this week's podcast.

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I'm having a look at what we can do to stay positive and stay focused

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when life becomes intolerable.

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If you're breezing through each day.

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And you're flowing with love, abundance and joy.

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While being aware of the reality of the So what is intolerable?

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I think in tolerable in our level of tolerance is.

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Individual to everyone.

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What you've coped with before.

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It's an indication of the potential that you can cope with in the future.

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And yet there are still times when something that potentially should

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be easy, becomes intolerable.

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And some things.

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Because we haven't experienced them for such a long time.

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Can throw us off our costs.

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I live in the Northeast of England and a couple of weeks

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ago now we were hit by a storm.

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It's really about 10 days.

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Uh, it took out the electricity for over 300,000 people.

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It brought massive destruction to forest some trees.

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We lost hundreds and hundreds of trees.

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It brought snow and freezing conditions.

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For us in.

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The village I live in the electricity, went off at 8:00 PM

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on a Friday evening and it didn't come back until Wednesday evening.

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And for the first night.

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It was kind of fun.

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We were lighting candles and huddling under throws with my

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dogs and reading a book on Kindle.

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While I still had battery left.

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And ironically, the book I was reading was about.

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Uh, snow storm, which traps people in the library.

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So it was.

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Interesting.

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Reading that at the same time of being in those conditions,

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I had eaten.

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I drink lots of water, so I didn't need any hot drinks.

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And the house was still warm, even though the heating was no longer working.

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So I felt quite comfortable with the situation.

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I wasn't anticipating any long term.

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Consequences.

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I wasn't anticipating days without electricity.

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And when I look around the world at the moment, I think there's a

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majority of people who are in this stage of awareness, who haven't

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really woken up to the enormity.

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If the situation of what's happening at the moment.

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And in the coming weeks, they may not have any.

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As a choice than to awaken see what's happening.

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So on the Friday evening, I went to bed quite snug, but when I got up the

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following morning, it was below zero.

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And as I said, my heating doesn't work with.

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Uh, electricity, even though it's, um, oil based.

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So there's no heating.

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There's no way to cook my phone, even though it's a landline was digital.

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There's no mobile signal anyway, and all the mobile masts were down.

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So there was nothing.

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I couldn't plug in my PCs.

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I had some battery left on the laptop.

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So I decided to keep that for the evening.

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After I'd walked my dogs and I'd seen the destruction of the trees.

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I sat and considered.

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What.

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Was the likelihood that this was long-term and what was the impact on me?

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If it was.

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Without having anything to cook with.

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And having limited heating.

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And I.

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Felt it was pretty intolerable.

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And that moment sitting, considering.

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That nothing worked without electricity.

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And even though I had prepared a little bit, I had a store of food I could use.

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I was running through my head around what would happen if the.

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Electricity was off so long that the food in the freezer defrosted.

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My fridge didn't work.

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What was the longterm facts?

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And in addition to this, we have a water problem in the village at the moment.

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So the tap water.

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Is officially undrinkable

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without boiling it.

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So there's a few kind of issues around all of that.

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And I sat and I pondered and I realized I had a choice.

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I had a choice to get up.

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Get on with it.

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Make things work, ask for help in the community, offer help in the community

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and just get through the next five days.

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And that's what I did.

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And the point of the story is that.

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I think we all have choices and days where things become intolerable.

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I think this initiation phase.

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We'll be pushing.

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Individuals.

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To breaking point.

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And that's the.

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The whole purpose.

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Do you break or do you move forward?

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Do you break or do you grow.

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And the option.

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For most of us is to grow, to choose that growth, to go choose that.

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Moving forward, that positivity.

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Back to my experience.

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I.

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Borrowed a camping stove from my neighbors.

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They were extremely supportive.

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They made me a coffee.

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And I warmed up in front of there.

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Log burner.

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And I felt so much better, you know, I'd been so angry and frustrated because I

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felt I should have been better prepared.

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And I went to bed that night.

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Under extra blankets and then another quilt.

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And it turned out to be the coldest night of the year.

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Let's Sub-Zero temperatures.

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And getting out of bed.

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Was like having a Wim Hoff.

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Cold shower.

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And I was actually grateful that that's something I'd been doing because.

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It wasn't such a shock of an experience.

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So we had five cold days.

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My freezer defrosted.

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And as each day passed.

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It became a little bit more challenging to be positive and not.

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To be.

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Despondent.

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It was interesting because it really was about.

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The basics going back to survival about shoveling coal,

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making sure there was heat.

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Exercising, making sure I had food and plenty of water.

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Borrowing hot water from next door.

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So that I could.

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Wash my dishes and.

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Wash myself though.

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Often I was washing myself in the freezing cold water, keeping

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up with the Wim Hoff idea.

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I learned a lot during those five days, I learned.

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A lot about myself, about my level of tolerance, about my mindsets.

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About the negative chatter.

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About the negative view that I sometimes hold spin stuck in the problem.

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I also learnt.

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Five major points, which you think it's important to share about anything.

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It's been better prepared, practically.

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Making sure I have food shelter.

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Heat light water money.

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ability.

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And community.

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And I think the community part is really important.

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Whether it's family, friends, or your neighbors.

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Having a resource to turn to when you really do need help.

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Number two for me was to swallow my ego and my expectations about how I'm supposed

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to cope or how this is supposed to go.

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And two.

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Focus on moving forward.

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Focus on doing what I can in this moment with the resources that I have.

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And just moving forward.

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Step-by-step.

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And trusting.

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That the universe.

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Has my back.

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Number three was.

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Again, swollen my ego and not being afraid to ask for help.

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It's something that I know.

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I struggled to do.

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And I asked for help.

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I got lots of supports.

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And then before don't be afraid to offer help.

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The things that I could offer were things like radios with batteries,

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because I don't particularly listen to the radio anymore.

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And.

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Just little things like food and biscuits and number five.

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As I said earlier, learn and grow each step of the way.

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Not just mentally and spiritually.

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But physically as well.

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Keep up the physical activity.

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Whether you're feeling low, whether you're feeling scared,

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physical activity moves that energy through your body moves emotion.

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And especially if you're cold.

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I know the, one of the things that I felt like doing was just calling

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up in a ball and sleeping all day.

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Hibernating.

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And actually physically moving about or was much better for me, both

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mentally, spiritually, and physically.

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And no, you can overcome this, that this too shall pass.

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I know it may seem a simple example and I know there is so

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much more going on in the world.

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And like you I'm dealing with all of that too.

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I'm dealing with the relationships with family and friends changing.

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I'm dealing with losing people that I love.

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I'm dealing with.

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All of the nonsense that's being put out.

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. I think for me, it's about taking responsibility for myself.

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Because at the end of the day, five days without electricity, without heat,

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it really.

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Reminded me of what's important.

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Of appreciating the simple things, the survival level things that matter.

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For.

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Not just your own self care, but for the community around you.

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I was really.

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Cognizant of the.

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Old people, the infirm.

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So those who needed medical care and attention he relied

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on machines to keep them alive.

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I cared for my parents before.

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Yes.

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And I just know how I would have struggled.

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And these conditions.

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I'm just so grateful that.

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Everyone seemed to get through.

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Okay.

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In the village.

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As we walk deeper, Into the darkness of the next few weeks,

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shining our light for the world.

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I have.

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Been.

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Prompted.

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To commit to a higher level to showing up more.

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One of the things I really did get from this.

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Five days.

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Is the importance of there being support.

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There being a place you can go.

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I'm at last launching my community to support those who.

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Are struggling.

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At this time.

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And from tomorrow, Tuesday.

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I'll be posting seven minute podcasts and videos.

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And they're intended to motivate and inspire, but also help with.

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Any issues that you have.

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So please do comment and write to me.

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If there's anything.

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That you have questions about or would like me to cover.

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I'm also going to host.

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A weekly zoom call.

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Of updates, tips, and resources to help you.

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And again, knowing what you need help with will obviously help

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with the value that I can deliver.

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I'm reviewing my patron accounts and linking it to discord.

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So that basic community chats.

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Linked to it, but I will also be setting up the community on Kajabi as well.

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Any donations and proceeds and receive will allow me to invest

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in the resources to support you.

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Going forward and support people who need.

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This type of support, and I thank you all for your generosity in advance.

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I'm putting together a PDF on survival tips.

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Just really simple things that you can do.

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I always a really big learning experience for me.

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And I think it's be useful to share some of the things

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I did learn from a practical.

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Position.

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I'm recording a crypto training costs this week.

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Uh, crypto.

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Becomes more and more on Parsons to, uh, economic systems as we go forward.

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, please do contact me with any questions, comments, or anything.

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That.

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I can help with and make sure I'm delivering.

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Valuable content for you that's relevant.

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And that really, really helps.

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My whole intention is to help support.

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Raise the vibration and hold the lights as we go through.

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The darkness of the next few weeks.

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So please like share and subscribe to the podcast.

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Because that helps me keep going.

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It would be great if you could drop a few positive reviews

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as well, because that helps.

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The podcast get seen.

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And thank you so much for listening today.

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I appreciate you.

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And I hope to see you in the next episode of the choosing happy podcast.