Day 5 - Break Free: The Magic of Parts Integration! 🎉

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Hello happy humans, and welcome back to the Choosing Happy Podcast.

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I'm Heather Masters and today we're on day five of our Breaking Patterns miniseries, right in the heart of international Coaching week.

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You've been doing an incredible work this week.

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If you've been taking part and I, I'm really proud of you if you're starting to feel shifts and you've actually done the work.

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Because we're on a seven day journey to break free from a pattern or a problem that's been holding you back.

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Whether you're a techie, an entrepreneur, a normal person or a creative.

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So far we've identified your pattern, interrupted the pattern, and reframed the limiting beliefs around the pattern.

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And today we're diving deeper with an NLP technique called parts integration.

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One that I think's magic and it's designed to resolve the inner conflict that could be keeping your pattern alive.

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So stay tuned and let's get started with this episode of the Tutor Happy Podcast.

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Hello and welcome to the Choosing Happy Podcast.

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This is day five of the Pattern Breaking episodes.

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I just wanted to reflect on yesterday.

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I mentioned something yesterday about choosing a day different voice.

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If, if you've got a voice in your head that sort of holds the pattern there or is, you know, repeating thoughts that are unhelpful to you, then to kind of name them and give them a squeaky voice.

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What I did, and this is just something I thought I'd share, is I called my anxiety Alan.

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So it's all anxiety.

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And what that brings up for me is a immediate remembering of a video.

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It's a BBC video and it's funny talking animals.

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And there is this, I think it's a chipmunk shouting Alan.

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And it just immediately shifts the, the weight that I give to that voice in my head because it just reminds me of that.

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So that's something, you know, you can, I'll put the, the link to the video because maybe, you know, there's something in there that you can use as well.

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But today we're looking at something that I think is really powerful and magical.

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And for me, one of my favorite techniques in nlp, neuro linguistic programming.

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So if you've ever felt torn, like part of you wants to break free from a pattern, but another part is holding on or you have trained to make a decision and part of you wants to do it and part of you doesn't want to do it.

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So something like wanting to stop procrastinating and write that book, but another part fears the judgment, or part of you wants to go on holiday.

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And part of you doesn't think you deserve it yet.

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Maybe it feels you haven't worked hard enough.

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A part of you wants to be successful, but the other part feels you haven't struggled enough to be successful.

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So these are inner conflicts and can and can be the thing that keeps our patterns stuck.

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And in neuro linguistic programming we call these parts, they're different aspects of your unconscious mind, each with a positive intention, but pulling you in the opposite direction.

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So what I mean by that, the positive intention, for instance, of procrastinating, we know the other part fears judgment.

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So you want to stop procrastinating, you want to move on.

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You can see yourself moving on.

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But this part of you that fears the judgment and that fear the positive intention, is to keep you safe.

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It's pulling you in that opposite direction because it wants to keep you safe.

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And parts integration is a powerful technique that brings these parts together, aligning them so they work as a team towards your highest good.

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It's like getting two best friends who've been arguing for years to finally hug it out and support each other.

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When your parts are integrated and aligned, the conflict dissolves and your pattern or problem can start to fade.

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For me, it was the magic of parts integration that got me hooked.

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And wanting to know more about neuro linguistic programming and to continue to train and explore the fascinating ways that we can work with our conscious and unconscious minds and beyond while aiming for that integration and alignment.

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Now I'm just going to walk you through an example of parts integration.

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I encourage you, if you want to try parts integration, to maybe find a full demo somewhere or to work with a coach.

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It's something I'll walk you through in The Breaking Patterns 3 Month Coaching Program that's available.

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You can find all of the details of that in the link below.

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But the early bird offer closes on the 19th, so I do encourage you to, if you're interested, to take a look at that pretty soon.

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Okay.

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So parts integration to resolve conflict and inner conflict.

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What we would do is find a quiet space where not only can you focus, but you won't be interrupted.

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It's kind of a, you have to finish this for it to work.

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So you know you don't want to finish it halfway through and not have resolved the conflict.

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So it's really important to complete this exercise fully.

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And what I do is ask you to close your eyes if it felt comfortable for you and to just relax, take a breath, get centred, feel your feet on the floor, really tune in to that conflict and to think of again, maybe the pattern we've been working with this week.

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So I know that we're all very good at tuning into that at the moment.

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So if it's procrastination, overworking or self doubt, and self doubt is a really good one to do.

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So if we notice that in a conflict and we know that one part wants to change, but the other part is holding on.

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Now what I'd ask you to do is hold your hands out in front of you, palms up, so that your elbows are kind of into your sides and your hands are out in front of you.

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And I then ask you to ask the part of you that wants to keep the pattern to come out and stand on the palm of your right hand.

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And then the part that is okay and just wants to break free, the part that maybe longs for freedom or success to come out and stand on your left hand.

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I'd then ask you to look at the parts and the part on your right hand, the part that's wanting to hold onto the problem or the pattern, I'd ask you to give it a name if it reminds you of someone, to give it a name.

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If.

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If it reminds you of something, to give it a name so that you've got a kind of an association with this path.

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And the other part on your left hand, I'd ask you to look at that and give that a name and just absorb maybe who or what that reminds you of.

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Then we'd start with the part that's the positive part, if you like, the part that wants you to break free, wants freedom or success, and really, truly supports you.

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And we'd speak to that part and ask it what its highest intention is.

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What's the positive, highest intention for you?

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And I'd use your name.

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And it may say that it wants freedom, it wants success.

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If it said something like it wants success, I'd ask again, and what's the highest positive intention of success?

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And then you'd come up with freedom.

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What's the highest positive intention of freedom?

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Till we've got the highest positive intention.

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And with the part that already supports you, that shouldn't take long at all.

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With the other part we do the same.

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So what's the highest positive intention of and whatever that pattern is?

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So if it's procrastination, what's the highest positive intention procrastination for?

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And your name.

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And if it says I'm keeping you safe, I'd ask again, what's your.

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What's the highest positive intention of safety.

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And we'd go on and on asking what the highest positive intention is.

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And there might be a loop.

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And this is why working with a coach is a really good thing, because you might find that there's a loop.

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So if we said safety, you might say, the highest positive intention of safety is preservation.

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And it's the same thing.

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So what's the highest intention of preservation?

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You might come back to safety.

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So you're looping.

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And the idea then is to have someone experienced enough to say, okay, so what's the highest intention of preservation and safety?

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What's higher than that?

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And that's where you might be confused.

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And there might be a bit of pausing, and that's breaking the neurological boundary.

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So that has to go beyond that core intention that it holds at the moment.

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And so it might go.

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The highest intention of safety is successful.

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And the idea is you'll see that both parts ultimately have the highest positive intention for you.

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As you're working through this process, you probably notice that your hands are slowly coming together unconsciously.

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And as you get to that highest intention, you probably notice that your hands are actually touching.

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And you imagine that these parts are merging together into one.

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You can.

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If they're not, you know, they're not quite there, they're not quite touching.

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You can ask the parts if they want to talk to each other, if there's anything they want to say to each other in order to support each other in coming together.

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And then notice them blending and merging together.

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And then bring them into your heart, into your chest, and sit with that energy of them merging into the wholeness of who you are.

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You can think, I am whole, aligned and free, and then notice how you feel that conflict.

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Has it gone?

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Possibly.

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It's such a powerful technique.

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As I say, it's really best done with a coach.

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But it's such a powerful technique.

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You probably feel the energy in your body shifting, especially if it's a big part that's kept you stuck for a while.

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You'll probably feel that energy moving for a while after you've completed the technique.

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It really is a huge step towards breaking patterns by integrating conflicting parts.

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And we can have quite a few conflicting parts, and it's almost a continuous process to.

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When we recognize that we've got these parts to take the time to go through the process.

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Once you've done it with a coach, they can show you how to use this process for yourself.

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It is more useful to do it with a coach because when, you know, when you get to that looping part.

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It's really good to have someone to guide you through that and to work with your unconscious mind.

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Now, before we wrap up, let's talk about consistency.

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I just mentioned that finding these parts and consistently using this process can make a big difference in your life.

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And breaking patterns and releasing problems isn't a one time thing.

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It's about creating a habit of checking in to nurture your mindset and your mental health.

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Your mental health, like your physical health, needs continuous work.

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So setting aside some time each week just to check in and see if there's anything that's happened through the week that maybe have triggered something or that there's something that's come up, maybe a part's come up that you were weren't aware of before and taking your time to release it.

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The other thing is about managing your state and that's really on a daily basis.

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And we'll cover that again in the three month pattern breaking course.

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Because we're going to look at parts, we're going to look at patterns, we're going to look at problems and we're going to look at consistency as well, of keeping a consistently positive state and consistently working with patterns and things that pop up and that we become aware of and that we can let go of.

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And one of the other things is keeping a consistent mindset of focusing on the future.

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So for instance, with the parts integration, generally you can't even remember what the part was once you've actually gone through the process.

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But going back to look for the problem after you've done the work tends to, as I said earlier, we have to recreate the problem by thinking about it.

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So if we go back to look for it, we can quite easily, after you know, a couple of times of digging around to see what's happened to this problem, recreate it again.

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So it's about the, the consistency of choosing a different focus and a belief that it has gone and it's not going to return.

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So join me tomorrow for day six where we'll use a hypnotic visualization to step fully into your new pattern free self.

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We'll also that anchoring that I kind of skipped again today.

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And remember, you can listen on any podcast app.

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And if you're ready to go deeper, remember I'm offering the pattern Breaker coaching program until May 19th.

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There's a special offer, a special price is 20% off and for the first few people they get an extra month with me as well.

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Remember that consistency turns these practices into a lifestyle.

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So you're not just breaking patterns, but building a foundation for lasting happiness and resilience.

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Please do share your progress with me by either dropping me an email, I'd love to hear how this is working out for you, how it's feeling, and if you're loving this series, please leave a review.

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It helps me to reach more people who are ready to shift their patterns and to choose happy.

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So until tomorrow, keep shining and choosing joy.

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Let's thrive together.

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