Episode 27 - Choosing to Follow Through

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What would you achieve in your life if he followed through

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more often on your intentions?

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What difference would it make?

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If you were more consistent in completing what you started.

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Would you like to try out three simple techniques that can help you

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to follow through to completion?

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Get more done.

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And be more true to your word, especially to yourself.

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That's all coming up today.

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I'm Heather masters and this is the choosing happy podcast.

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Hello and welcome to the choosing happy podcast.

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I chose to explore, choosing to follow through because it's one

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of my personal biggest challenges.

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There are a number of reasons that we don't follow through.

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I think often we can be quite harsh with ourselves quite critical and judgmental

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when we don't complete something.

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When often there's an underlying.

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Subconscious unconscious reason we don't follow through.

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Why we self-sabotage and we don't complete on things that we promise ourselves.

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We do.

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I know for me, if I make a promise to someone else.

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I will do it.

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I will follow through I'll commit.

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I'll make the effort.

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I'll get up at five o'clock in the morning.

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If I have to, to make sure that I get what I said, I do.

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Done.

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If I make the same promise to myself.

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That's not always guaranteed.

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I can make commitments and intentions and work that I find it really

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challenging to follow through.

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There's something about a self-sabotage that I put myself into situations

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where I'm very likely to fail.

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In this episode, I wants to explore three ways that you can avoid.

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Not following through that.

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You can avoid self-sabotage that you can avoid.

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Being inconsistent on your commitments.

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The first one is really simple and yet quite powerful.

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And that's to sync through before you commit.

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What you're actually committing to.

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Plan it out in your head, just visualize it.

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An idea.

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Of the.

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Enormity or even if it's small.

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Get the idea of what you're committing to.

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Are you going to go into overwhelm?

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Is it something that you've never done before?

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Will you have the resources to do it?

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Do you have the time.

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In your day, if you're a mother who's working and has kids.

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But you commit to helping someone else.

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Do you really have that time available?

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What's the impact it's going to have on those around you and on

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the work that you're already doing?

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Do you have the money to carry it through?

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What's the payoff.

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What's the payoff.

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That's going to keep you going.

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And you're going to really enjoy it.

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Is it something that you really want to do?

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What's the benefit.

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Is it going to generate income?

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If you're an entrepreneur, are you attracting customers?

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Um, Y.

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Identifying your why?

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What's the motivation?

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What's the real reason.

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That this is important to you.

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Are you going to get out of bed every morning to do this for you?

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For whoever you've committed to on a scale of one to 10.

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In terms of your commitment.

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If you really honest with yourself, How far up the scale are you when 10

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is absolutely certain and committed and definitely follow through.

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Once you've.

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Started you've committed.

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And you've made a start on your projects.

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And you find yourself struggling and resisting.

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Take the time to check in with yourself, step back and just ask

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yourself, what's stopping you.

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And then go deeper.

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Ask yourself and.

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So I know for myself, if I asked myself, what's stopping me.

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Quite often I can come up with some real.

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Great excuses, but the surface level excuses.

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For instance.

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If I struggle to do a podcast, I can blame it on the extra hours

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I'm spending with technical issues.

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And that might actually be genuine.

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And if I'm really committed.

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And I'm really passionate about subject.

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The technical issues really won't stop me.

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So what's the root of what's stopping you.

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And be kind to yourself when you're asking this.

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But also be tough.

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Really get to the root, really understand.

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It's okay to resist.

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As long as you are aware.

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Of what you're choosing and why.

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Cause when you're consciously aware of what it is that stops you, then

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you can choose something different.

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You take back your power.

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And one of the first places to go to is.

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That Y.

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Write down that why?

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Right at the beginning.

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And remember why you started.

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And it's okay.

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Once you're conscious of what's stopping you.

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And you've had a look at the why and how important things

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are and you've reassessed.

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It's okay.

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To decide not to continue.

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To let people know that there is a deep reason why you can't continue.

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But do face the real reason.

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And decide from full responsibility.

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Observe yourself.

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Learn.

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And then decide.

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The third step.

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It's just too.

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Visualize yourself completing it.

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Having.

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100% completed.

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The task.

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And then to decide what's the first small step.

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That you can take to move forward.

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To take that one step closer.

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Toward completing.

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Even if the step isn't the one you think you should take.

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Do something along your path to get you back into momentum.

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Just take one small step and then the next, and then the next and

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see how many steps you can take.

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To move you forward today.

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And then commit to the steps you're going to take tomorrow.

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And when you're ready and you feel up to it.

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Then choose to do the should step.

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The step you're resisting.

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And when we're talking about momentum and moving forward, actually moving your body.

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Movement in your body encourages movements everywhere else that generates

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energy and propels you forward.

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In your head in your body.

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In your energy field.

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So take the time to move.

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And there's a bonus, create a poster or a sticker.

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Put it on your wall, right on post-it notes.

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I put it on the screen of your phone.

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Say out loud.

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Every time you sit down to work.

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I follow through with my commitments.

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Especially when they are to myself.

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The rest of this week.

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I'm focusing on a happy Christmas countdown and I hundred days to happy.

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I want to thank you for listening today.

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Thank you for your attention.

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If you have any questions, please do drop me a line.

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The email address is in the show notes, along with links to the website and to.

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The podcast page.

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I'd be grateful if you found this useful that you share it, that you'd like it.

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And if possible, if you'd leave me a review.

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Every little helps me to commit and follow through.

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To continue to do this podcast.

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I'm Heather masters.